Keeping the Love.

 Keeping the Love.

For the typical Double Income No Kids(DINK) couple, it might be easy to keep fit. Yet, every newlywed couple can find it hard to keep fit. Leading more sedentary lives can also affect your libido, health and have knock-on effects if you give it enough time.

Keeping Fit?

We've just been going through a rough patch in our marriage, when it felt like a torrent of things were keeping us both down. We had just moved into our flat, and without going into specifics--family obligations got us down.
Our once impeccable flat became a mess. We both stopped trying to keep fit with our Ringfit video games, and we were both generally depressed*.
(Ringfit is wonderful and is also our Affiliate recommendation for this post!)

*because we aren't clinically diagnosed depressed, and we empathise with those who currently are

Until we both woke from this depressive fugue, and we rented some bikes to cycle.

It took a while for us to get out of this brainfog, but when we finally did, these two lardasses found themselves enjoying it.

I started losing weight, and the wife started to notice the improvements in my libido. She still has some negative perceptions toward her body image, but I ensure to gently reassure her and love her.

To this day, we try to keep our standing date--to at least cycle a bit a week.

Tips:

• 1-Communication
  Much like our previous post about foreplay--everything is about communication. If something is making you uncomfortable or making you feel bad, talk it over with your partner. Discomfort is for today, Clearing the Air is forever. Trust is built by facing up to things that make you feel bad, and taking away the good from the situation.
• 2-Time
  Making time for each other is important. I make it a point to sit quietly in the same room with my partner every night. We could be doing our own things--I would usually be playing Video Games or building Lego, she could be reading or doing her Cross Stitching Project, but most importantly is that we're together. That is our preferred way of communication, but we definitely love that quiet unwinding time we have.
• 3-Gratitude
  It's easy to take for granted when your partner cleans up the kitchen, or when they do the laundry or wash the toilets. My wife and I make it a point to always express gratitude and thank each other every time. We both believe in the idea of seeing the other person for what they do, and to appreciate them every day.
• 4-Keeping the Romance
  It may be hard and wearing on one's schedule, but with relationships...It was a choice you made, and it should be one you keep making.
  Loving someone is easy, but it takes effort to keep loving. Always love them everyday, and make that conscious decision to love them today. It might sound sappy, but surprise them with some Boba Tea, maybe some flowers?
• 5-Forgive
  Your partner will mess up here and there. That is a fact of life, and that is something you have to forgive. They might not be perfect, but they told you the truth. Forgive the truth, Beat back the lie.

Takeaways

The point of this post is that my wife and I keep talking and communicating. We keep each other's mood up, and we are first and foremost, best friends. I never keep anything from her, and it's understood that between us--there are no secrets. We'll definitely discuss more this in a future post--the idea of Secrets, and also the idea of communication.

Always talk with your partner, and you will never go wrong.

Above all things, put on love.

-PN

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Our recommendation this time is Ringfit Adventure for Nintendo Switch. We thoroughly enjoyed the Role-Playing-Games(RPG) Aspect of the game, and we have collectively lost 7KG during the COVID Lockdowns!
Now that we've moved in together, we still crack it out once in a while to exercise and do some calisthenics and some hard physical exercise.

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